I do not suffer from this addiction but I suspect that my teenage children could be addicted in some way. They want to watch midnight movies and and hide away some of the movies they get from friends.

Also pray for our local priest who has become hooked in adulterous life with a whore and it has caused a lot of strife within the community.

My daughter Mandi and I are writing to you on behalf of her boyfriend Chad. Chad is a great guy except he is addicted to pornography and sex. Chad also has a problem with drugs. We believe his sex addiction comes from unintentional neglect of his mother after his brother Nick was born (he is 5 years younger than him and the divorce). Mandi is the first girl Chad has ever dated that is religious and firmly believes in abstinence until marriage. He does not know how to handle it, although he respects her and does love her. The whole circumstance on how they met you can see that God led Mandi to Chad knowing that she could help him to combat his addictions though prayer and her morality. Before they met, she had a dream about a gold star over Pineville (this is close to where Chad's grandmother lives.) Then she heard "You are on a Mission from God" so loud that it woke her and she did not understand. First she met Brent and Mark who were in a band she promotes music bands. Then met Chad in March who was doing a music video for this group. They lost contact for 6 months then she met a friend of his Trey at a concert in Lafayette who gave Chad her phone number. Not knowing Mandi liked him.

Their first date was on the August 28, 2005 on the Feast of Saint Augustine. Chad was raised a Pentecostal now he has no religion he has a lot of anger against God. From what we can tell he blames God for his parents divorce and for a friend who overdosed on drugs. He has admitted to having a problem he calls himself a "bad boy." He just needs some guidance. His family and friends have no idea that he has this problem. Chad floored Mandi when she saw on December 8th Feast of the Immaculate Conception he told her a girl in a porn magazine reminded him of her. Mandi of course got offended. She also took as if God was showing Mandi's face for a reason. He even let it out that he was going to a Maxim party which is like playboy party in Baton Rouge telling he did not know why he had told her. Every time he get around her the truth comes out. You see God and Saint Therese has brought to this site for Chad because he needed us to for him pray for him.

November-05
I’ve been reviewing this site for the last hour or so. Though I take some solace in hearing my own story shared by so many people of good will, I must admit that the fact that every story ends in failure (relapse) is itself discouraging. Though I’ve been a Christian for as long as I can remember, my wife and I converted to Catholicism only last year. I believe in the real presence of Christ in the Eucharist and the unique graces it provides and participate in Mass several times each week (after confession). I guess my question is, ‘does anyone have any good news?’ Has anyone formerly addicted remained pure for years at a time? I’m only 33. I don’t want to be the same person when I’m 65. Is this sin cycle our earthly punishment for allowing ourselves to fall in to this trap in the first place? This isn’t a criticism of your site. I’m thankful for it. Just looking for some hope in the form of changed lives. How did St. Augustine do it?!?

Just a few more questions . . . . How to interpret the litmus test (failed) that comes with Christ’s words that those who love him keep his commandments, or the numerous scriptures that condemn the sexually immoral? Aren’t we who can’t stop sinning sexually ‘sexually immoral’ in our essence? Hasn’t the sin permeated our souls in a peculiar way to shape who we’ve allowed ourselves to become? My repeated trips to the confessional always make me wonder if I really do love Jesus. Those who love him keep his commandments. . . . My life is sad testimony to the fact that, though I’ve been given the precious grace of complete faith that Jesus is the living God, I’ve still chosen my own gratification in full view of heaven THOUSANDS OF TIMES. Do I really love Jesus, or am I kidding myself? It’s a pathetic disgrace. Lord have mercy. Finally, I always recoil at the idea of comparing the struggle against this sin to the bearing of a cross with Jesus. Jesus didn’t deserve his cross. I brought this one down on myself. I deserve every bit of suffering that comes with it. People with cancer bear a cross. Those persecuted for their faithfulness to Jesus bear a cross. I think my pain is the “natural sentence” that comes with breaking the “natural law.”

I won’t give up hope. There is no other hope. This is it. To whom shall we then go?

"Oh God, May you bless those who are lost in darkness, May you give us the wisdom to to do what's right before your eyes, May you give us the power to make the positive choices of Love, hope and Faith, and If those are not enough to save our cheater husbands, May you deliver us and our families from Evil so that we can still live for you and through, in his name, Amen"

1. Catholic help for this problem

2. A suitable couple's recovery community to help us sustain our own recoveries. We particularly want a group that is supportive of traditional marriages and can support couples who want to stay together and work it out

3 . Relief from the pain and hope for our marriage.

 +++ Please pray that Ron be released from pornography. He has been hopelessly addicted for 40 years. I have given up hope on his immortal soul. +++

Last week, I found that he'd been dowloading hard core porn movies again off the computer onto a CD so he could view them on his laptop. I'm at the end of my rope. I don't know what or how to forgive him again. I don't have it in me to EVER trust him again. We've been married over 11 years and he's been caught many times over the marriage. His health has been effected. He developed diabetes, high blood pressure, terrible rashes on his skin, and has gain so much weight that he's to tired to even have sex. He's now drinking about 5 beers a night, I believe he's turned into a alcoholic too. This is destroying my marriage and my life as I know it. My heart has been shattered over and over again. I don't know what to do.

I've been a member of 12 step groups for well over a decade. I've worked the steps to the best of my ability and am going through them again.

In addition, I suffer from a physical illness, Lyme Disease. I "circumvent" my physical and emotional suffering with this illness by continuing to "go back out there" and experience the devastating consequence of the "first drink" of sex. Suffice to say, that I have not had the spiritual experience necessary to return me to sanity and keep me away from the "first drink".

What does help is going to meetings and helping others primarily newcomers. To go and wallow at a meeting gets me nowhere.

My problem is the overwhelming depression that I experience (Lyme Disease is an infection of the brain and Central Nervous System, hence the depression)--followed by the Evil One's voice that says "act out once more, you'll feel better".....

My ex-husband is addicted to pornography. It is possible that he has Narcissist Personality Disorder. But, I have read that addictions to pornography can cause a person to become addicted to power as he is - so the way he is could really be a product of porn. I am not sure.

I first saw the signs one year after marriage when he I found a stack of porn magazines in his nightstand. I confronted him. He said he was sorry and said he would not do it any more. He tried to introduce it into OUR marriage soon after that. He was somewhat successful. He introduced several things, but I didn't like it. For years I saw or noticed nothing (other than his personality issues). In 1995 at a Marian conference he had a conversion and became a Catholic in the spring of 1996. Things got worse after that.

As the years went on, he was away from home more and more and our relationship dwindled until we were two people simply co-habitating. He had an affair (the only one I know of but have heard rumors of others). He agreed to try on the marriage but could not commit to disclosure or change. During that painful year signs of pornography came out. He admitted to masturbating at the office every morning while watching porn (he used to go in the office or his girlfriends at 4am in the morning). During the divorce I found out that he hid porn magazines in the ceiling tiles of his office. After 17 years our marriage ended last year.

What are the prayers for now. He annihilated me in a custody battle. He claimed I was a religious fanatic and an evaluator believed it and gave him rights to religious decisions for our children. We were finally able to settle out of court and we share custody of the children and fortunately I can practice my faith with our children when they are with me. Unfortunately, they are with him half of their lives.

He told me once that he would give my boys (I have two boys and two girls) porn magazines when they were old enough to masturbate. At 6 and 8, they already say "hubba, hubba" to pretty girls they see in cars or walking in the grocery store parking lot. They comment about the girls in the huge standup posters you see in the gas stations. I use it as a teaching opportunity but it is hard without sounding like I am ragging their father (children of divorce hate it when a parent says something bad about another parent).

Please pray for my children. Please pray the Lord uses my children as instruments of healing for their father. Please pray that the Lord gives me the right words and the wisdom to teach my children to avoid pornography even if their father does not heal.